“This is what I want to do to you” – Dissecting the ‘POV ur a TERF in my mentions’ trend.

A man stands in his bedroom posing in front of a mirror. In his left hand he holds a machete, he takes a photo. Satisfied with his snap he lifts the weapon in both hands poised to strike, his face contorts into one of malignant rage, he takes another photo. 

Is this the latest ISIS recruit? A school shooter’s manifesto? A bad taste art project? No, this is ‘POV ur a TERF in my mentions’ the latest trend in trans activism

This Twitter trend sees people (largely male) post pictures of themselves wielding weapons and sex toys accompanied by the phrase ‘POV ur a TERF in my mentions’.

"Girls Rule"
“Girls Rule”

POV stands for ‘Point Of View’ a first person camera angle, which can be currently found in assorted popular media from gamer videos to porn, its popularity lies in its ability to show the ‘pov’ of any given persona. This trend seeks to target ‘TERFs’. The ‘pov’ shows what a ‘TERF’ sees before and during an imagined attack from these ‘brave’ trans activists. It is a photographic representation of “What I’d like to do to you.”.

"Yes the sword is real"
“yes the sword is real”

TERF stands for ‘Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist’ a slur that; if you are a woman you can find yourself called for the simple act of stating biological fact such as ‘humans cannot change sex’, ‘a woman is an adult human female’ or ‘women do not have penises’, you see the term ‘TERF’ is just one of many ways that some trans activists choose to utilise language for their own socio-political gain. Say “this is what I want to do to a TERF” and only the people who understand ‘TERF’ understand your intent. Say “this is what I want to do to women who do not share the same opinions as me” and people (hopefully) start to ask questions.

Do you care what this person’s pronouns are?

The emphasis in TERF often falls on the ‘Trans Exclusionary’ (*see end of article) side, it is often used by trans activists when they insult a view that does not support their own narrow interpretation of biology and trans activism. In reality it is the “Radical Feminist” side that is increasingly the focus of any criticism and abuse. 

The “In my mentions” part of the slogan galvanises the idea that ‘TERFS’ are the challenging, dissenting voices in the gender debate. ‘Mentions’ are the feed of an individual on social media, the messages displayed relevant to your own messages and interactions. If a feminist is “in your mentions” she is commenting on your views, your messages, she is offering her view, her opinions, she may very well disagree with you. In the eyes of the abusive male holding the weapon the ‘TERF’ is the aggressor, “POV ur a TERF in my mentions’ is social media misogynist’s “look what you made me do to you!”.

To be a feminist one must be female, feminism is after all for the liberation of women and girls from patriarchal oppression and all males benefit from patriarchy. To be active on Twitter one should be an adult, make no mistake the slur TERF is aimed at women, radical women, radical feminists; the type of women that refuse to centre men in their lives and will not lie to appease the whims of men. 

I’m not sure this is the convincing argument for mixed-sex toilets they feel it is.

You would be forgiven for thinking at this point that this whole hyperbolic ‘POV ur a TERF in my mentions’ trend is “just a big joke”, this excuse was certainly given when these people were challenged about the intent of their images, and certainly some of these images border on the perversely comical.

oh, how I laughed!

If you agree with their stance I say to you to at least acknowledge that violence against women and girls is a very real threat in every single society; according to the Office of National Statistics 227 women and girls were killed between March 2017 to March 2018 147 of which were killed by a male family member or lover. What may be deemed “just a laugh” to you is in fact helping to normalise the view that women that have different views to your own, those pesky feminists ‘in your mentions’ can and should be beaten, strangled, stabbed into conformity. When you laugh you add confidence to the originator of the joke, your laughter adds strength to their cause, you agree with them.

Do you really agree with them? More intriguingly would you feel the same if this violent imagery was aimed at any other oppressed demographic? Would you feel that images of men or women wielding weaponry was harmless hyperbole if the accompanying slogan was “POV ur a transwoman in my mentions”? 

"Stunning and Brave"
“Stunning and brave”.

The activists that post these pretend to be strong and I often see cries of the now ubiquitous  “stunning and brave” towards the trans community, but I see nothing stunning, brave or strong about these images. The people posting these images are cowards; doomed to hide forever behind masks, pseudonyms, and linguistic obfuscation. We see you and we will not forget your actions.


I have documented all “POV ur a TERF in my mentions” that I can find here.

The threats I have received as a consequence of this documentation can be found here. (This link may no longer work after my permaban)

*PLEASE NOTE: By its definition Radical Feminism is not ‘trans exclusionary’. Feminism is for ALL women, the ones we find easy to agree with, the ones that do not agree with us, and the ones that, for whatever reason reject the reality of their female bodies. All women can benefit from feminism.


UPDATE 9/10/2019: Thank you for the overwhelmingly positive response that I’ve received for this post.

Sadly the ‘Pov Ur a TERF in my Mentions’ trend doesn’t seem to be slowing down, I add new photos every day to the ‘Thread of Shame’ and also receive more cries of ‘but it’s just a joke!’, or “it’s a meme” (a visual internet-only joke).

I’d like to emphasise to anyone tempted to subscribe to this needlessly apologetic attitude; these people have taken great effort to select a weapon, pose with their chosen weapons, select the perfect angle for the shot, to set timers on cameras, reshoot to get the right mix of menace and light on their cheekbones, then to post to social media knowing that their intended target will see it.

This isn’t a case of ‘retweeting’ a rebellious or bad taste joke, this isn’t an insult or quip fired off in the heat of argument; as with all misogyny aimed from the trans community this has taken a calculated effort to execute.

I suggest that we all refuse to fall victim to the ‘just a joke’ rhetoric. This is a pure example of gaslighting. The abuser forever telling us ‘its not what you think it is’ , ‘stop overreacting’, asking; ‘can’t you take a joke?’.

I refuse to be manipulated into denying the truth that is so very visible to anyone willing only to look. As Maya Angelou said: “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” These activists have gone to great effort to show us who they are, we now need to accept what we are seeing. They may hide behind social-media-esotericism but they are merely the modern ‘instagram-ready’ faces of an age-old problem; violent misogyny.

Such comedy!

22 thoughts on ““This is what I want to do to you” – Dissecting the ‘POV ur a TERF in my mentions’ trend.

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  1. These posts are insanely violent and threatening, to the point of being criminal. Looking at such pictures is receiving a psychic assault. Any respectable person would be horrified, and any sane woman should be scared. Your point about women more often receiving violence at the hands of men is, sad to say, all too true. Keep fighting against these pictorial perpetrators! (I fear that before long this might happen IRL. That level of animosity, combined with dehumanization, might not remain only in the “virtual” realm for long.)

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    1. And I say this as someone who disagrees with the notion of “all men are the enemy” type of feminism you appear to espouse. It is also an intersectionality problem in which a great many males are victims too – but far too many have used that as an excuse to pass the perpetration down the line. Women have threats institutionalized in many levels of the system. No denying that. But IMO treating the other gender as contemptible by nature is merely another form of objectification which serves no one.

      I also have some “T” credentials. I totally agree that AMAB asserting that they’re female does not produce a complete equivalency with being a woman. I also am repulsed by many MTFs and wannabes focusing on an extreme form of femininity and subjugation to the male and calling that womanly. The “sissy” sickness is disrespectful to women and even to whatever femininity is (in a non-“gender absolutist” way).

      I am ardently non-sexist, but I also believe that does not mean that I am inferior and malevolent by being male. I believe we have the same ultimate goals – true equality and equity, the freedom to be “the self that one truly is”.

      And I would fight beside you or any woman threatened by these terroristic monsters – and would fight them even if you weren’t on the scene. Their homicidal insanity needs to stop. I wish you everything and everyone you need to be protected against any physical threat of harm, to recover from the mental, emotional, and spiritual damage from those pictures and words, and to put these people behind bars where they belong.


  2. It’s sad what women have to suffer through online, for saying something as self-evidently true as “women don’t have penises”, at the hands of men (and “women”/TIMs).

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  3. It’s not a joke.

    I have been threatened with rape and murder on the regular from men, and about half are pretending that they can be women. But they are all MALE.

    Rape is not funny to women. Being murdered for disagreeing with males is not funny to women.

    Only men enjoy berating and threatening us for (what males claim is) disobedience, only males think that frightening and bullying women is funny.

    The pile of female bodies that males leave in their violent wake is disturbing enough. That males find our corpses to be hilarious speaks volumes about who and what they are.

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  4. This…this is how the internet works. If you don’t like it, get off.

    If you’re even remotely frightened by somebody on the internet, a place where nobody knows nobody, and people can say and do whatever, holding a weapon, insinuating they might hurt somebody through a meme, get off the internet.

    I say this as a person who cares about your mental well-being, stop using social media, stop talking to people through comments, and focus on reality. As a person who basically lives on the internet, if this fazes you, please stop using the World Wide Web.


    1. No, let me tell YOU how the internet works. If you have an opinion or a topic you want to discuss, you can go to the internet and discuss it. And if your opinion is abusive and harmful, people may respond ON THE INTERNET with their disapproval. Since you “basically live on the internet” you ought to know that.

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      1. You’ve re-stated my opinion with but with caps lock.

        The internet does not bend to your will. It is filled with mean people because it reflects on society as a whole. Your response means jackshit. So does mine.

        It’s like arguing with a racist in a Youtube comment section, not only are you not going to change anybody’s mind, you’re going to leave that conversation feeling bitter and jaded, so don’t be invested in any of it. The internet does what the internet does. That shouldn’t be a new concept.

        But like, I thought you knew this since you know how the internet works and all.


  5. Rebecca, saying women can’t have penises can only ever be exclusionary to trans people. You cannot claim to support trans women and then turn around and say they aren’t women because some trans women do have penises. That is trans exclusionary plain and simple.
    Noone thinks that humans can change sex. Of all the trans people and allies of trans people I know, noone has ever said that humans can change sex. If you listened to trans people, you would know this. Therefore, you either don’t listen to what trans people are saying or are deliberately strawmanning them. By doing this, your in fact representing and shutting out the opinions of trans people. That is in fact, trans exclusionary.
    In the current patriarchy, it is extremely easy for a man to sexually assault a woman. Women are vilified and made to feel like they should accept this unsolicited action from men. Therefore, it makes zero sense that a man would decide to pretend to be a women just so he could sexually assault a women. Toxic Masculinity means these men will try and be as masculine as possible and when it is so easy to violate women with a society that remains silent on, no man would go to the lengths of pretending to be a women. Instead by vilifying trans women and forcing them to use men’s spaces, you are leaving them at an even greater risk of being potential victims of sexual assault. You wouldn’t advocate leaving a biological woman in a space filled with only men. If you advocate putting in a space filled with only men you are being trans exclusionary.
    You call yourself a radical feminist. You are trans exclusionary. You are a trans exclusionary radical feminist.


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